Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Welcome to Reggie Darling
My name is Reginald Ambrose Darling, and I’m known as “Reggie” by my friends and intimates. I know that the name “Reggie Darling” sounds a bit of a joke, and believe me, I am no stranger to reactions of amusement when introducing myself to someone for the first time. But that’s my name and I’ve come ‘round to rather liking it over time.
I’m a WASP sometime-observant Episcopalian who grew up on the East Coast of America in comfortable circumstances in a family that valued education, accomplishment, and service to our Nation. My ethnic roots are largely concentrated in the British Isles and many of my ancestors arrived in America before the Revolution. I attended one of the Saint Grottlesex boarding schools and also an English public school, and graduated from one of the Holy Trinity of the Ivy League. The men in my family have traditionally pursued careers in the law, the military, medicine, and the Church; captains of industry are noticeably absent. I am employed by one of the large, global investment banks where I work in the debt capital markets, and have spent the better part of my career in finance. I am married to Boy Fenwick, an interior decorator with clients in the Park Avenue/Greenwich axis. That’s right, I’m married to a man which is probably the only thing about my life that would surprise my forbears should they know me today. Boy and I divide our time between an apartment on the Upper East Side in Manhattan and Darlington House, a jewel of a Federal-era house several hours north of the city that we are endlessly and ruinously restoring and furnishing. You will get to know Darlington House well on this blog. Boy and I have been together for twelve years and consider ourselves a family, since we also share our lives with a most-adored pug named Pompey. You’ll come to know Pompey, here too.
This description is an expanded version of what already appears on my Blogger profile. Some commenters in the past have irately accused me of being a snob and a braggart for providing this description of who I am. Actually, it is simply a factual description of the particulars of my circumstances, with no sense of superiority, entitlement, or snobbishness on my part. I am acutely aware that I am fortunate for the advantages I have had, and humble that it was sheer luck, and only luck, that provided me with such a privileged basis upon which to live my life. I believe that no man, woman or child is responsible for where they came from, or for what hand fate has played them. On the other hand, I most firmly believe that we are all directly responsible for (and accountable for) what we make of our lives in light of what it is that we have been given.
So, now that you know a bit about me, let’s get on with the fun!
Photos by Reggie Darling